Top Masturbators for Men
The Top Masturbators For Men
Hey everyone! Shameless sex therapist and intimacy coach Jackie blogging from Minneapolis, MN with my sexual self care cozy blanket and cup of tea. Grab your favorite self care snack or beverage as we go through the top sex toy recommendations for men on this blog!
Here are my top sex toy recommendations…
Vibrating Cock Ring
**Disclaimers: Male masturbator is a term lots of people use when it comes to sex toys and the best sex products. I want to reiterate that gender does not equal genitals and I am using this term only for purposes of this previous interview I was asked about. This language is not mine and this blog is more so about sex toys for penis owners :) There are also affiliate links in this blog, which just means if you add something to your cart, there is no additional charge to you and a portion just goes back to my business :) Here’s also my Amazon Influencer Store shop to see what products I recommend if you’re curious about future products!
How Do Sex Toys Help With Sexual Well Being?
Holistic Pleasure: How can the right sex toy enhance overall well-being and mental health in men?
Focus on whole health and holistic sexuality. When masturbating, a person may feel pressure, be in their head, experience performance anxiety, and more mental health related symptoms. If that's the case, it's important to incorporate solo foreplay by oneself. Use different self soothing and relaxation techniques prior to masturbation with oneself. Also, prioritize aftercare after masturbating. This can be physical, emotional, psychological, and more. Aftercare can be anything from peeing, a shower, eating food, drinking water, taking a nap, and more! Masturbation can help reduce sleep troubles, and the common cold, and can increase overall happiness due to the happy chemicals in the brain after masturbating or experiencing an orgasm.
What Are The Best Sex Toy Brands?
Product Recommendations: What brands do you recommend as a sex therapist and an intimacy coach?
That's a great question, there are tons! Here are a couple of different sex toy brands I would recommend.
Lelo Sex Toy Brand is a HIGH quality sex toy brand!! Check out my video review for the LELO Enigma Wave Sex toy
Support my friend’s small business Esmerelda Eso Es Toys & use my code JACKOFF15 at checkout!
I am still actively searching for more sex toy lines to come out with new products for penis owners.
Evolution of Sex Toys: How do you think male sex toys have evolved over the years with societal acceptance, functionality, or terms of design?
I don't think there are enough sex toys for penis owners. With my YouTube channel, my intention is to keep reviewing sex toys and new ones that are out there. This past September, for sexual wellness month I've heard men don't feel like there are enough sex toys too. They are accepted more than women and it does depend on culture, religion, and other various factors as well. I think there are a lot of penis fleshlights, cock rings, and then more sex toys to use with a partner/spouse. I feel like there does need to be more sex toys for different designs and functions overall.
Material Of Sex Toys: How important is the material of sex toys?
It depends! Honestly, if you are pairing certain lubes with sex toys, do your research first. Some lubes will melt sex toys because they're not compatible. The safest is water-based lube because it won't melt sex toys or latex condoms like other materials. If you are a sensory person, meaning, you get a lot of stimulation through touch, taste, sound, sight, and smell, then material may be important for you. If not, play around a little bit and reflect on what types of material you like. It can be important if the person does have any allergies, make sure to look into testing for that if you are nervous.
Safe Sex: What precautions and advice do you have when people are selecting a sex toy for the first time?
Go slow! The number one reason why people experience sexual injury during sex can be due to masturbating with sex toys too fast and/or hard. Some settings on sex toys are set at the highest first, which could cause injury. I recommend playing with the toy prior to use, as in, don't put it on your genitals right away, get a sense of what you're working with and going to be getting into. Be mindful not to use drugs and or excessive alcohol when using sex toys because they are numbers. If your sex toys are on too high, you may not feel it, which could then increase the chance of injury due to a lack of sensation in the genitals if you are using numbing substances.
What Else Is Important For Sex Toys, Using Sex Toys With Partners, & Sexual Intimacy Coaching?
Sex Toy Stigmas As Taboo: How can we encourage more open dialogue about male sexuality and sex toys, since there are more options for women?
It starts at home! Honestly, that might sound weird, and a father to son conversation about sex, sex toys, lubrication, and sex education is not a one time talk. It's sex talks and if dads decide to educate their children or sons on sex toys, that's a great start! Ask a sex therapist or sexual wellness coach questions about sex toys as well that they would recommend. Understand and work with them on sexual education and process this if you need questions answered. Join a sexual wellness group for men if it is online or in the area if a sex coach or therapist runs this. Talk a lot! When you're excited about a new toy or something, share that information with others that you are close to. Be it spouses, partners, or friends who may feel like they are struggling too. Share that sex therapist and/or coaches information too to help with the shame! There is no shame in the sexual self care game! Use my affirmation to help too!
Couples' Play: How can sex toys be used in a couple’s pay and what are the benefits of using sex toys with a partner?
Many ways! There's mutual masturbation with partners, side-by-side masturbation, mirror masturbation, and any of those ways work! Couples can explore masturbation more together and use sex toys and/or lubes if they want to. This helps reduce any sexual shame and stigma about masturbation in general. Have shameless conversations and use shameless communication skills. Shame/Blame language 101 - don't say why, but, you, or should language. That immediately invokes a shame/blame defensive response. You should go masturbate with your new sex toy sounds sassy but how do you feel about masturbating and trying the new sex you got? Communication, comprehension, clarification, and implementation are key when it comes to shameless communication skills.
Pleasure vs. Dependency: Do people ever overuse their sex toys or become dependent on them?
I wouldn't necessarily say dependent, some people's bodies can't achieve orgasm without a sex toy and that's okay. For others, if it has gotten to a point where they have gotten to achieve an orgasm with their hands, fingers, lubes, etc., and can't by a toy anymore and have distress about using one, then that's different. There is no shame in the sex toy game! That's what they're here for and some people haven't had an orgasm at all, sex toy or not. If a person is overly stressed about the amount of times they are masturbating, then sure that's a sign to seek sex therapy or coaching near you. Some people do masturbate 3-4 a day and that is okay because that is their normal. If they want or need a sex toy for that, that is also okay, healthy, and normal. If people don't want to use sex toys and feel like they want to slowly not be reliant then do individual sex therapy and intimacy coaching to figure out what the best steps are for you. Everyone is going to be different and that's okay!
Long-term Benefits Of Using Sex Toys: Are there any long-term benefits of using sex toys for sexual health?
Yes! Sexual libido can go up, one study that was done found that those who masturbate before a public speaking event or presentation reported feeling more confident that day. My guess is if it helps with confidence before a speech, it more than likely does with overall self-esteem. What's more confident and intimate than being sexually active with yourself and knowing what you are doing? That's a pretty cool thing! Other benefits could be an increase in sex overall be it with self and/or partner(s)/spouse. Masturbation can also help with sickness, the common cold, falling asleep at night, and the brain shoots off happy chemicals that we are flooded with after masturbation, which improves overall mood.
There's no shame in the masturbation game! Explore sex toys, know your libido is normal, and it's okay to ask for help with this from a sex therapist and intimacy coach too!
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