How Often Do Women Masturbate? | A Sex Therapist & Intimacy Coach Answers
Hey there, shameless squad! As I settle in with my cup of sexualiTEA, it's time to unravel the mysteries and break the taboos surrounding a topic close to our hearts – women's masturbation. Today, we're diving deep into the realm of self-love, answering burning questions, and shedding light on the reasons behind the curtain of silence. So, grab your favorite mug, take a sip, and let's embark on this shamelessly honest exploration!
Main Takeaways
The #1 reason why I believe women don’t masturbate, is due to shame. They experience shame when asking parents, and caregivers, at a young age, shame in asking partner(s)/spouse, or even get shamed by religious trauma, the patriarchy, and more.
Women experience shame, guilt, performance anxiety, depressive symptoms, lack of arousal, and desire, and may not want to do the mental work on reprogramming their sexual beliefs, especially if this has taken years of their mental energy and time
Women masturbate, but there is no “normal,” number, what’s right for you is what’s right for you, and that’s okay boo! Claim it, own it, and stay shameless with your sexual self care routine!
Fun Facts About Sex & Women’s Masturbation: What Some Studies Have Found…
A third of women aged 60 to 69 report masturbating on somewhat a regular basis the stigma around sex and female masturbation is lifting in our society
According to a recent article in 2022 50% of women aged between 19 and 49 reported masturbating within the last three months
One study reported that 22% of women had never masturbated in their life. Reasons why that the study talked about is it's dirty to touch yourself. It's morally wrong. It's shameful as a woman there are a lot of body issues with image and competence.
One research study found when sexually aroused after fingers and vibrators candles are the objects used most often by female masturbators
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How Often Do Women Masturbate? The Unfiltered Truth
Alright, let's get straight to the heart of the matter – how often do women masturbate? Well, the truth is as diverse as the array of teas in my cupboard. Women's masturbation habits vary widely, ranging from a few times a year to a monthly rendezvous with pleasure.
According to a recent 2022 article, around 50% of women aged between 19 and 49 reported engaging in the sacred act of self-love within the last three months. It's a refreshing revelation that signals a shift in societal attitudes towards embracing female pleasure.
For women in relationships, a third reported recent solo adventures, dispelling the myth that partnered women don't explore their own desires. Even women in the 60 to 69 age group proudly shared that they indulge in self-love on a somewhat regular basis. It's evident – the stigma around sex and female masturbation is gradually lifting in our society.
Why Don't Women Masturbate? Breaking Down the Barriers
Now, let's address a question that often lingers in hushed tones – why don't some women masturbate? The reasons are as varied and complex as the flavors in my tea collection. One study revealed that 22% of women had never experienced the pleasure of self-love, citing reasons such as the belief that touching oneself is dirty, morally wrong, or shameful as a woman. Body image and competence issues further contribute to this silence around self-exploration.
It's essential to recognize that societal norms and deep-rooted taboos play a significant role in suppressing female sexuality. The journey to breaking down these barriers begins with understanding, acceptance, and fostering an environment that encourages open conversations.
How Can Women Masturbate? A Shameless Guide to Self-Love
Now, onto the practical side – how can women masturbate? The possibilities are as vast as the universe, and each woman's journey is uniquely hers. From fingers to vibrators, and even candles, women employ various methods to explore the depths of their pleasure.
Here are some reminders and tips for embracing your solo adventure:
Variety is the Spice of Life: Not everyone masturbates the same way. It's okay to experiment with different positions, toys, lubes, or sexniques. Discover what feels right for you and embrace the variety.
Communication is Key: If you choose to share your masturbation preferences with a partner/spouse in the future, remember what turns you on and how to communicate this to them. Open communication fosters understanding and a deeper connection.
Listen to Your Body: Don't put a strain on your body. If you're engaging in activities that cause discomfort or pain, it's not normal. Your pleasure journey should be a source of joy and comfort, not pain.
Embrace the Uniqueness: Masturbation is a deeply personal experience. It's a chance to get in touch with your body before letting others do the same. Celebrate your uniqueness and relish in the shamelessly unfiltered pleasure of self-love.
No Shame in the Game: If shame rears its head during your solo escapades, remember – there is NO SHAME in the Masturbation Game! It's a celebration of your desires, a journey of self-discovery, and an expression of self-love.
Reminders for Navigating Shame: A Shameless Toolkit
For those moments when shame tries to sneak in, here's a shameless toolkit to keep in mind:
Trial and Error: Masturbation is a journey of trial and error. What works for someone else may not work for you, and that's perfectly okay. Embrace the process of self-discovery.
Communication with Partners: If you choose to share your solo adventures with a partner in the future, communicate openly about your desires. Help them understand what brings you pleasure and strengthens the connection.
Pain is Not Normal: Physical discomfort or pain during masturbation is not normal. Listen to your body and prioritize your well-being. If something doesn't feel right, don't push through it.
Masturbation is Healthy: Masturbation is a healthy aspect of sexual well-being. It allows you to connect with your body, understand your desires, and celebrate your unique sexuality.
Seek Support if Needed: If you find yourself feeling stuck or ashamed around masturbation, consider seeking sex therapy or intimacy coaching. Unfinished business or unresolved emotions may be hindering your ability to fully embrace your pleasure, which is more appropriate for sex therapy. If there is no unfinished business and you are really excited to jump into your sexual self care adventure, then let’s get started with sexual wellness coaching!
In conclusion, my shameless squad, let's break free from the shackles of silence and celebrate the unapologetic beauty of women's masturbation. It's a journey of self-love, empowerment, and pleasure. So, raise your cups high, sip on the sexualiTEA of self-discovery, and revel in the magic of your own desires.
I hope this blog helps you navigate Women’s Masturbation and helps you stay your shameless, sexy, authentic self! Share this blog with anyone you know who may be struggling with sexual beliefs.
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